He’s been a Served!

Readers, do you realize that for some, going through a break-up and subsequent separation can be overwhelming. Actually, it can become quite scary. Some folks literally lose themselves in the process.
Some folks would have handled this mess quite differently from the way I did, and I respect that. However, for me, I knew immediately that I would not reconcile, because of the operative word—two-years! I valued myself and knew my power. I also could not phantom someone looking at me and lying to me for that long. The betrayal, to me, was enormous! This person could have killed me.
I have since learned so much distressing facts about my marriage, that sometimes the garbage smells so badly, it further reinforced that I could never recycle. 🤔
What started as a manipulative, jealous rage from an ex to gleefully call me to tell me about him having a two-year old kid with another woman, became so much more. Unwelcome secret text, and her sending texts & pics of the kid and my finding insurance policies, getting anonymous text of ex and her new fiancée/husband who was best friend and roommate with my husband decades ago, and learning of accusations they s 2-yr old child is not his, DNA avoidance & denial, the child having the side piece husband’s last name-now they have to get it legally changed if the test proves otherwise, the side piece being a married woman, so much more, came out of you wanting this man to continue to help pay your insurance and your rent, still. 🔥 I have learned that the lies were more than 2 years old. The secrets will all come to light 💡 He has been with the side piece on and off throughout our dating and married period. She knew of our marriage, and did her thing too. 🤥🤥 I was Not entirely sure of all the lies anymore. 🤷🏾‍♀️ Too much for this old broad to handle 🤪 This is total chaos!😱
Yes, Readers, I had to remove myself from the three ring circus of ex, side piece and me.
PSA: some leopard will never change his spots. Once a cheater, always a cheater.

As I learned of the complidcated mess I was in, I knew one thing, I have no control over him. However, I have control over myself. I had to realize that my face cannot remain scrunched up and I remain angry about what he did. I had to turn the frown upside down. No bitterwoman here! I could not let this problem take my joy. I had to stop asking and begging him to sign divorce papers. After five months of waiting, with the same negative result, I had to understand the process is taxing on my spirit. I have to trust God, the most High!
Readers, staying in or getting out of a cheating relationship one must stay strong! The initial shock, I promise you Readers, does eventually evaporate. Sleepless nights will vanish into sound somber. Laughter does come back. Surround yourself with God. Family, friends and a good therapist will help, as well. Play an old comedy album.

For me, God did not allow this man’s lies to break me down. The more I learned, the more his lies erased our marital bond. Boldface lies that was still begging for a comeback. Ex even told me to not leave him, but rather, make him my bitch 🤢🤮. These things allowed me to detach quick and severely.
Readers, there are some folks who cannot react this manner, as I did, and that is ok. I am different.
In addition, Readers, this mess made my prayer life grow stronger, and I believe God placed the right people, at the right time, to help me cope and I worked right through the shock. Thank you, Jesus! I am blessed and very grateful to my family and great friends who stuck with me.

I intiated the divorce process and that gave me such peace. He was finally served by the Processor! God has heard my cry to remove me from such evil. I was the classy cover for dirty behavior.

Thank you 🙏🏽 Jesus that I am one step closer. I know that God has built a fence around me and He has already fought and won the battle for me!

Positive affirmation: Remaining strong. God has kept me!

Colossians 3:15 Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful.