Keep My Name Out Your Mouth, I’m Done

Readers, this was supposed to be a dirty, silent secret that should never have gotten out! My father God saw differently and commanded me to write about it. I had to overcome my fear and listen to God! Little did I know that my therapist would concur and this would become a major part of my healing process! I encourage you to go back and really read what I have written in my experience during the process leading toward my divorce. I did not take it lightly. In fact, I was pensive and put much thought into every written word.✍🏼 ✅

When I say leave me alone I mean it! I paid almost $6,000 for a contested divorce, plus mediation because I wanted to be left alone. It should have cost $450 at most. Please stop 🛑 Enough false accusations. I want nothing to do with you but cases. I have asked, so now, I’ll dish it all out, too.

Truth be told, I imagine he was very divisive in his way to win and split everyone up. No names need to be spelled out because everyone recognizes themselves. Let me spill some of that tea! ☕️ I have now learned that this is what he did. Using me as a wife covering to pretend faithfulness, so no one would ever suspect a side piece or an ex; 💍🤢🤮 Once caught and I asked since he knew the side piece before he met me, why did he not marry her? His response is because she was slow. Then I found out she was only 22 at the time; 🍼 Talking about how bad an ex wife is, and the many men she has been with, one would never suspect, he still had an interest and was paying her many expenses and discussing our household business with her; 💰 Telling me how the man your ex-wife is with is so vile and a womanizer when you was his friend and roommate, is down and dirty; Each man your ex is with, you have a problem on how they discipline your kids and your wife agrees with them because, it keeps you there; Talking about how many thousands of dollars a friend borrowed from you and refuses to pay back and having parties and acknowledging newly found friends and ignoring you, is a way to keep folks away from your wife. I was sick of listening to complaints; 👂🏽Talking about your own mother, and constantly arguing with her and stating how greedy she is and how she uses you and not her other favorite children is super low, yet she is your adviser, is the ultimate hypocrisy; Hiding secret funds from the business and pretending the little money you make is reinvested in the business is crass. I never wanted your money; 💴 Stating the church folks who introduced us as fake, when they first split and he stayed at your mother’s house and saying now they think they are happier than everyone is lame; ⛪️ Talking about your best friend being in denial about their kid’s smoking weed habits in school and their sexuality, is not cool; 😎and telling folks that you married an old woman who is established as she has everything makes you a loser, not important or superior to the friends you laughed behind my back with. 👩🏽‍🦳 Now rumors and lies about me churns. 🤥🤥They do not think I will hear. Blah, blah, means I don’t give a flying fig! 🤬 You know what I say, Readers, I do not throw a rock and hide my hands. I tell it to your face, as hypocrisy is not my forte! Don’t start “nothing” and it won’t be nothing!

Interestingly, my ex-husband was secretive. 🤫 Zero accountability and encouraging enablers told me to take him back and stop writing. Sometimes we want to hear lies or cover for those who are lying. I wonder how most of them feel now? Are they still blaming me? Using my night work schedule was great for him for many years, but now the lights are on. All the darkness has come to light. 🌚 🌞 The sad part is, everyone he was involved with only knew about me, the old wife! What they never suspected from this stelth of a lying cheater was he had his way with friends, side piece, ex wife and Lord knows who else. His frivolous behavior in his mid-forties, and that of many others in his entourage spans decade(s), according to his best friend. They did not know he was a hoe because he got married, and neither did I! Folks allowed themselves to be used because they envied and wanted to be little old me. Now the side piece called me to tell me she has this terrible itching in her privates🤪😱🤷🏾‍♀️ I have the date, time of calls. She also said, he was buying her a house. PSA Did you think once with you, he would never cheat again? You are not the only side piece! You got what you wanted. Not my problem. Hoe, hoe, hoe. It’s not Christmas, either!🌲 I can’t hear you! Might be crabs or herpes. Go to your local Department of health.

My ex-husband knew my expectations. I gave him a great wife, peace, comfort and joy. Household expenses, vacations, dinners, travel, gifts, brunch, chores were met by him. We had a good ride before I knew who he really was!🎢 He had to hide it in the crevices to keep me from finding out his disgusting behavior. He knew I didn’t take no mess. 🤮 they need to refrain from blaming me for stupid shit. I am no longer involved! Stop using my name in your shenanigans! 🛑 Keep my name out your mouth.

He learned the hard way. I ain’t the one! God has rescued me and his blessing has departed from him, to never return!🙏🏾

Erasing your info and the side piece info from my phone, forced me to go to Apple and got them reinstated 🤪😂😂 I got new passwords and I’m changing them often 🖕🏼

Positive affirmation: I will not envy or want to be someone I am not. I am the one and only me!

Micah 7:8 Do not gloat over me, my enemy! Though I have fallen, I will rise. Though I sit in darkness, the Lord will be my light.

John 14:27 Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.

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