There are some folks who did not meet their biological father (parent), until adulthood. Some never will. Why? It varies – as a result of a child being born after a war, military stationed, vacation stop, death, drugs, adoption, moved, one-night stand, affair, or just plain denial and lies…
Not every affair or cheating episode result in a child being born. But some do. In one of his radio episodes, Michael Baisden stated, in part, swab kid mouth and get a DNA, whether one is married or not. I did not take offense after hearing many stories, but many of the listeners who called in did. One guy stated he found out the kid was not his when she was in her 40s and to him, it did not matter. He says, he could not undo their whole entire relationship from birth.
Sometimes cheaters think they are fooling the spouse by sneaking around to do the dirty. What they may not realize is that he/she may be seeing other folks as well. I say, play around with dogs, one will get fleas. That fool, is being fooled too! Another name is hoodwinked, deceived, tricked, duped, fooled, cover-up (dumbass – sorry, just thinking out loud)! Cheaters are so busy being fake, they do not realize the trickery going on when jezebel is plotting: “Who has time to wait until he comes back in town”. “I’m not going to collect cobwebs and wait for him to show up after weeks or months.” “He is married and there is no commitment, so I can see whoever I want”. No one is calling anyone a hoe, but – Well, it gets complicated. Who’s the daddy? Pick one of the many she may be sleeping with! I saw a show on television where a teenage boy wanted to know who his father was and the man at the podium wanted a relationship with the boy. He told the judge years ago when he sent for a DNA, there was another boy’s name on his DNA result and at the time he did not understand; and that boy was not the father. The judge announced the results of this man’s DNA one the show — he was not the boy’s father, either. This means as a teenager, she was sleeping with at least three boys (these two were not the boy’s father – the boy was devastated and mom was embarrassed). Public Service Announcement (PSA), firstly, keep your personal package in your pants, except for your spouse! However, if one is cheating and did not wear a condom or a condom burst – DNA is the only option after a child is born. Please also note if one was dipping in the sauce, well, there is a possibility that if a pregnancy comes along, one may get a finger pointed at them. Maury says, “you are not the father!” Or you may very well be the father. Even though, a lot of feelings will be hurt, but the truth will come out. Otherwise, the more one lies, the more one has to cover the lies. Truth be told, most men do not want any part of this outside child. In fact, most run off.
Readers, everyone says, I let nonsense break up my marriage. I left my husband because he was not man enough to tell me he cheated. Also left because my husband is a liar. Yes, Readers, whether a woman is 18 or 65 and know a man is married, she may not care, and will spread eagle. My husband knew he is married to me and it did not stop him from cheating. My husband is a loser. A two-year old child is out there and her momma has not had DNA done and hides the child – who does that? My friends have asked me, so why did I kick him out? The child has nothing to do with me. Again, my deal breaker was when that vagina and his penis met! Our marriage vows were disrespected by my husband, not her. No amount of begging from my husband can restore our marital relationship. Whether the child is his or not, it does not matter to me –that would only make him one of the biggest fool ever. Even cons may get conned.
Denial sometimes make folks think, if ignored, the problem may go away. It will not go away. Folks tell me Shhhh! I am over everyone telling me to stop talking about this. Although some folks opt not to respond on the blog itself, (if that continues, I may stop posting my truth), however, my messenger inbox is loaded with kind words, and thank you. This is helping me heal. Families may get upset about my publicizing my life, it really does not matter to me, as some may be enablers. You see Readers, in my culture, it is acceptable that, uh, just punish him (yep, like time out), and then all will be sweet roses again. No one was responsible to tell me, expect my husband. He did not. Yet some folks knew for years. Sometimes folks get a good laugh, until it is their turn to dance this devastating twist. It irks me that folks are so quick to say it is not my business, but is it their business to say go back? Well, I say, a rose cannot grow in the dark only, else it will become wilted. A rose needs sunshine and fresh water. My husband kept me in the dark. Further, when one lies, omits or cover-up for a family member or friend, one becomes a co-conspirator and enabler – I could not bring myself to tell you! It wasn’t my place to tell you. Either way it will come out because darkness cannot overshadow sunlight. Thus everyone gets hurt in the long run – the tiny problem becomes a tsunami. Fools get fooled!
Positive Affirmation: I am wonderfully made by God. (Psalm 139:14)
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