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Three-Ring Circus 🎪 of Deceipt

Please sir, my prayer is for you to Just SIGN the divorce papers!

It takes a toll, through tears, at times, to do God’s work. Yes, Lord, I will obey! Prayer 🙏🏽 surrounds me and catches me in its safety net. God’s hands are holding me, and He would not let me go. I repented for not going to God first. However, every now and again, I think 🤔 about even though I did not know the magnitude of the toxicity of my marriage, the strength it took that December 29, 2019 to pack this man’s shit and kick his ass out, was God’s purpose! Now, all I can say is, BUT GOD!!! Our hands are too short to box with God. 🙏🏽

Yes, Readers, let’s just verbalize a recap of this three-ring circus 🎪 I was a part of. Ex, side piece and me. 😜 🎥 🍿 Beavis & Butthead, the Haitian version of Booki & Malice. In other words Clowns!

Years ago this man asked me to sell my house and let’s go buy a five-bedroom house so that each of our kids can have their own room 🙄😏 My response was why? My grown ass children are out of the house, your kids have a mother and don’t live with us, when they visit, they can stay in my kids’ spare bedrooms. 👍🏽😜 Yep, I said it. And that was the end of that!

I thought I had a monogamous marriage. I know, it makes no sense at all. The word itself is an oxymoron. Wrong! However, God has truly opened my eyes.

Embarrassment and shame was overshadowing me and was suppose to have forced me into silence. God said, it’s not about you! You have to help others! Now I truly understand🙏🏽

I have since learned that between initial notifications and text from his ex, denials and lies from soon to be ex-husband, (I have filed for divorce); constant weird anonymous text messages from whomever (I blocked them-where were these folks for so many years and why now?); 🤐learning that the side piece is a married woman; learning that the kid does not have any of their last names ;🥴folks telling me to shut up and stop talking; and folks telling me to go back to my husband😱🤪; learning he fooled me and she fooled him, it’s no wonder I am glad I immediately sought the help of a therapist. I may need to go sit on the psych couch now😳

In the span of four months, I have received text from ex. The ex told me that he had a two year old child. I was with this man for 9 years, married 7. She said, you are a woman and I am a woman, you should know; and then gleefully blurted it out her excitement. She said, the two-year old child looks like her oldest at that age. She said so much, she then called and text pictures and other information to me over several days. She is not and was never my friend, matter of fact, she meant this for evil 👿 she even spread it all over her own church. Too extra! Yes, Readers, I finally had to ask her ‘are you still fu&$@ing him? Response was, no, I swear on my kids’. Yeah, right! Remember Readers, I was done, and this was days after I put him out. 🥱🤔 if anyone believes that, I got a bridge to sell you!

Received crazy anonymous text messages that I really did not trust or believe because I did not know if they were from the ex or his friends, or a vindictive source. Here’s the surprise, I was not on my husband’s car insurance policy. If I had an inkling of doubt about these anonymous text, this piece of paper was in my house for years, and I found it while I was cleaning stuff to throw out. You would never guess in a million years, Readers! I found his car insurance policy with both his ex and his side piece, as additional drivers on it. Both of them🤢🤮 dated…. 🥁 🥁 🥁 March, 2016. 👁 👀

Oh, readers, guess what, I also learned that the side piece was 22 when they first met and attended the same church as me and my husband did. I was on the American side, she was in the small group in the Haitian side -God sits high and looks low-the disgusting adultery was going on under God’s house too 🥱- the disrespect 🤷🏾‍♀️ – folks texting me with scare tactics where these people are from cannot deter me from doing my mission. God does not care where Port-de-Paix or LaTorture is – This deteriorating saga is not about me. I guess someone has gone and done made God 😤

The side piece and his on and off relationship was weird in itself. But then, so was my marriage 🤔Do you think the ex and side piece knew each other from years ago, or did he keep them separate? Also, why did he not marry the side piece since he knew her before he met me? 😜🤷🏾‍♀️There’s so much more to the three-ring circus, Readers! Too long and ongoing episodes. God spoiled their plot! What was all of their end game for me?👿☠️👻👺👹

Readers, 🙏🏽 God has got a funny sense of humor. I was minding my own business, in my own house when the ex wanted this mess to explode in my face. She contacted me through a third/party. I did not get upset, I was in shock, but I still thanked her. If it were not for her, I would have never known to this day. Yes, Readers, the ex was engaged to his friend and asked for money, and this time, he did not give it to her; but I’m thinking 🤔 it’s more like that of a woman scorned 😂. Jealousy and messing with helping pay for living expenses and car insurance was being messed with. Plus low self-esteem, deep seeded darkness and mental illness surrounded their heart to involve and use so many people 🤧. What the ex meant for evil, God made it for my good 😇. Praise the Lord! But God! Thank you, Jesus!🙏🏽

Once I found out about his infidelity, I have always known one thing, I wanted a divorce. NOW! Folks don’t tell me to 🤫 shhhh! Go talk to God. I am about my Father’s business. Relationships have suffered through the cheater’s denigration in silence! Keep your stuff in your pants and honor your vows. I am here to encourage you all to take care of your spouse, talk to each other. True love can be real! It’s time to make families unite! Find one woman/man and stay your asses home!

Also, DO NOT text me anymore, whoever, you are! I made it plain and clear as day, I did not want him, the second I learned of the adulterous act from the ex. No more anonymous text. No more secrets. One thing though, I found out more things about this man in 4 months than I knew in 9 years.

Readers, Ya think 🤔 he should have signed the free divorce papers I asked him to sign since 12/31/19? 😜😱. I do! Sign the damn papers.

Positive affirmation: I thank God for the ability to say YES to Him!

Bible verse- 1 Peter2:9
“But ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of him who hath called you out no of darkness into his marvelous light

Psalm 119:1-8 King James Version (KJV)

119 Blessed are the undefiled in the way, who walk in the law of the Lord.

2 Blessed are they that keep his testimonies, and that seek him with the whole heart.

3 They also do no iniquity: they walk in his ways.

4 Thou hast commanded us to keep thy precepts diligently.

5 O that my ways were directed to keep thy statutes!

6 Then shall I not be ashamed, when I have respect unto all thy commandments.

7 I will praise thee with uprightness of heart, when I shall have learned thy righteous judgments.

8 I will keep thy statutes: O forsake me not utterly

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One reply on “Three-Ring Circus 🎪 of Deceipt”

I pray that he signs the papers soon so that you can close that chapter in this horrible saga. I pray that God will heal you from the pain and hurt that this deception has caused you. And I pray that the morning will quickly come when you wake up and the sun is shining and your heart is smiling and you lift you hands high in the air as you take a well-needed stretch, and you know that you have finally come through on the other side—the circus is now behind you.

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